Speaking of “the new gay…” and calling anything that … I love society and how acceptance shifts and things are normalized and the goal posts can be moved. It’s good to be reminded of this in different areas. The world isn’t as liberal as I’d like, and right-wingers have fought so vociferously for decades that they’ve held society back on a lot of fronts, but… things can go the other way and, eventually, tend to.
Thinking about “the new gay,” there’s definitely reasons to see open relationships as less of a “choice” for some than a question of “reality.”
Life is complicated, though, of course. There may be more “nature” in the question than you’d think, but there’s still questions of “nurture,” in how one chooses to act. Cheating? Self-denial? And even if embracing, the nature of human emotions, growth and development, may require some personal growth, reflection and, well, effort. For which advice such as the following is but a small part.
…do not squelch it, do not deny it, do not be ashamed of it, and most certainly do not deny it.
Feel.your.feelings.
Your feelings are trying to tell you something, so let them be felt without judgment or second-guessing. Feel the feelings. And when they’re done, let them go. Don’t try to go back and revisit them artificially. If the jealousy or insecurity comes up again on its own, again, feel the feelings, and let them run their course. In time, because you are giving them “voice”, as it were, these feelings will fade, both in frequency and intensity.
And in truth, all emotions work this way. Feel your emotions fully, whatever they may be, let them run their course, and then, let them go.
Of course, asking for help by way of reassurance, or communicating valid complaints, is also a reasonable thing to do. But much easier when you actually allow yourself to feel your feelings and become more aware of what they may be telling you.
“…laying out the case for a soda tax…”
Taxing unhealthful foods has its appeal. So, too, does pulling subsidies from corn and grains. But at some point, it may begin making sense to subsidize health foods, too. This is not a new strategy. We subsidize home ownership because we want people to own homes. We subsidize health insurance because we want people to have health insurance. We subsidize education because we want people to go to school. Last I checked, we also wanted the populace to be healthy, and for our health care costs to go down. And with prices the way they are, the deck is really stacked against that absent some sort of government intervention, at least when it comes to low-income families.
Being in debt, I’d say I’ve at least experienced some of this here and there. And the bit about corner stores not making profits people think, reminds me of my time at the 4th St Food Coop, and customers who thought we were rolling in it. Ha. And their mission to provide cheap food for poor people just isn’t served anymore by a tiny store with specialty foods. Nice for NYU students tho.
The High Cost of Poverty: Why the Poor Pay More
You have to be rich to be poor. That’s what some people who have never lived below the poverty line don’t understand. Put it another way: The poorer you are, the more things cost. More in money, time, hassle, exhaustion, menace. This is a fact of life that reality television and magazines don’t o…
Continuing joblessness, years of weak investment and higher public-debt burdens, in turn, will dent economies’ underlying potential. Although there is no sign that the world economy will return to its trend rate of growth any time soon, it is already clear that this speed limit will be lower than before the crisis hit.
Time for a new WPA, preferably working on transportation and green energy infrastructure.
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